ATPL - How do I keep my Wife happy?
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ATPL - How do I keep my Wife happy?
An appeal to all those who have a similar problem:-
Go to work, come home (piccking up kids on way), wife gets home, have supper, kids need puting to bed then studying starts at 9:00pm much to the disapproval of much loved wife.
How do you keep her happy or does it just get worse?
p.s. I have just completed ll of the above and am hiding trying to do some work before......
Go to work, come home (piccking up kids on way), wife gets home, have supper, kids need puting to bed then studying starts at 9:00pm much to the disapproval of much loved wife.
How do you keep her happy or does it just get worse?
p.s. I have just completed ll of the above and am hiding trying to do some work before......
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It,s difficult I can well sympathise with you having been there and now have the t shirt to remember it by.
I found it hard to please "er indoors" and indeed hard to concentrate on the textbooks, in the end had to go to a school having failed miseably at the first attempt on the exams, for the above reasons.
So my advice is try and convince her it,s for a better future for the family.... and try to believe it for yourself too!
Good luck.
I found it hard to please "er indoors" and indeed hard to concentrate on the textbooks, in the end had to go to a school having failed miseably at the first attempt on the exams, for the above reasons.
So my advice is try and convince her it,s for a better future for the family.... and try to believe it for yourself too!
Good luck.
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Buy the "Magic Balls for Her pleasure"...
seriously though, quality time is much better than quantity time, so reserve from time to time a little space in your schedule for your loved one and you. An ATPL is not THAT hard that you can't have any spare time anymore. If that is the case however, stop immediately,for you are not living anymore, but are a slave of the JAA.
seriously though, quality time is much better than quantity time, so reserve from time to time a little space in your schedule for your loved one and you. An ATPL is not THAT hard that you can't have any spare time anymore. If that is the case however, stop immediately,for you are not living anymore, but are a slave of the JAA.
Remind your wife (and yourself) that your ATPL study will be complete after a finite period of time -- your ATPL studies won't last forever. So, while you must devote a good portion of your time to this effort now, view it as a temporary sacrifice instead of a permanent situation.
Intense study now will prevent failure (and of course failure would only cause the situation to be extended further....)
Like Ballinthemiddle says, you're giving your family a potentially better future. By making the short-time sacrifice now, you will be in a much better position to reap the long-term benefits.
Intense study now will prevent failure (and of course failure would only cause the situation to be extended further....)
Like Ballinthemiddle says, you're giving your family a potentially better future. By making the short-time sacrifice now, you will be in a much better position to reap the long-term benefits.
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Its bollox mate - shes a 'Wife' - they are impossible to keep happy. Accept that fact and get on with your studies. She'd only moan about something else. I choose to do other tings rather than sit in front of Coronation Street and Eastenders and get berated for that.
You could go for the Black Adder/ Lord Flasheart route
Treat your woman like your kite
Get in her five times a day and take her to Heaven and back
WOOF WOOF!
You could go for the Black Adder/ Lord Flasheart route
Treat your woman like your kite
Get in her five times a day and take her to Heaven and back
WOOF WOOF!
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You guys amaze me.........sorry to be the grumpy old cynic, but what the hell do you think it's going to be like once all the studying's over and you've got the flying job!!
Then'll you'll be studying for your type rating. More late nights. Then your sim conversion. Then your line training.
Then once you're all checked out and actually doing the job, she's going to see even less of you, and you can say goodbye to any social life as the late nights, early starts, night stops and general crappy roster disruption start to take its toll.
God, I sound like 411A.
Seriously, good luck with the studies, but this is just the start!!
Then'll you'll be studying for your type rating. More late nights. Then your sim conversion. Then your line training.
Then once you're all checked out and actually doing the job, she's going to see even less of you, and you can say goodbye to any social life as the late nights, early starts, night stops and general crappy roster disruption start to take its toll.
God, I sound like 411A.
Seriously, good luck with the studies, but this is just the start!!
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Future Pundit,
As my signature reads..."It is easier to obtain forgiveness as it is permission"
Seriously, I am in the same position (or opposition) as yourself. I am married with 2 kids and am finding it tough to arrange time at the moment also.
I found that if you try and include her in your planning, then she won't feel left out and most importantly she can try to organise what SHE needs around YOUR schedule.
Also include the fact that the training will be over in a number of years, therefore, instead of training and working a full-time job, you will have narrowed that to just the full-time job and by then will have probably been substituted by your new platinum card anyway.
Good luck with your future training.
Regards,
B1.
As my signature reads..."It is easier to obtain forgiveness as it is permission"
Seriously, I am in the same position (or opposition) as yourself. I am married with 2 kids and am finding it tough to arrange time at the moment also.
I found that if you try and include her in your planning, then she won't feel left out and most importantly she can try to organise what SHE needs around YOUR schedule.
Also include the fact that the training will be over in a number of years, therefore, instead of training and working a full-time job, you will have narrowed that to just the full-time job and by then will have probably been substituted by your new platinum card anyway.
Good luck with your future training.
Regards,
B1.
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Be aware my beloved wannabees that aviation is not a job!
It's a way of life.
You will be working day,night, holidays,weekends, xmas, new
year every single birthday and anniversary, and you will be away
when the kids are sick,the drains are backing up and whenever
any drama takes place at home.
If your wife is displeased by your need to study now, trust me
you need to kick her into touch immediately. Thats if your really
going to stay in aviation.
Aviation will crawl into your bed and lie between you and your
wife.
If it does'nt, get out and find another job or find a real aviator's
wife.
It's a way of life.
You will be working day,night, holidays,weekends, xmas, new
year every single birthday and anniversary, and you will be away
when the kids are sick,the drains are backing up and whenever
any drama takes place at home.
If your wife is displeased by your need to study now, trust me
you need to kick her into touch immediately. Thats if your really
going to stay in aviation.
Aviation will crawl into your bed and lie between you and your
wife.
If it does'nt, get out and find another job or find a real aviator's
wife.
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Thanks for all the replies. This weekends work has now finished and I have shown this site to my wife who to date has refused to believe that others have done the studies with a family.
We are now a little bit more enthusiastic. I am thinking of doing a poll of the number of hours studying per week.
We are now a little bit more enthusiastic. I am thinking of doing a poll of the number of hours studying per week.
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Future Pundit, I have been through the same mill as you, and my wife supported me, financially and emotionally all the way.
Drop me an e-mail if you like ([email protected]).
Drop me an e-mail if you like ([email protected]).
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Future Pundit,
I was similarly siuated when doing my ATPL, CPL etc etc. but tackled it on a full time basis over about 9 months. Kept wife happy by devoting weekends to home life and social events, and working my bollxxx off during the week. Am now in full time flying employment and life is not so bad, wife and kid are happy and see me every day.
Chances are your first job will be short haul/ air taxi work and you will be home nearly every day, so although there is lots of study and pressure, it is possible to have a life as well in aviation.
Of course your circumstances may not allow you to take up training full time, but it would allow you to get the bulk of the legwork out of the way in a relatively short space of time. Worth considering.
Anyway good luck with those exams!
Barney
I was similarly siuated when doing my ATPL, CPL etc etc. but tackled it on a full time basis over about 9 months. Kept wife happy by devoting weekends to home life and social events, and working my bollxxx off during the week. Am now in full time flying employment and life is not so bad, wife and kid are happy and see me every day.
Chances are your first job will be short haul/ air taxi work and you will be home nearly every day, so although there is lots of study and pressure, it is possible to have a life as well in aviation.
Of course your circumstances may not allow you to take up training full time, but it would allow you to get the bulk of the legwork out of the way in a relatively short space of time. Worth considering.
Anyway good luck with those exams!
Barney
