Can Crew Have a Normal Relationship
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Does this not go on in other professions?
If not, where did the phrase "Doctors and Nurses" come from?
Any relationship is going to involve hard work at times, unless you both happen to be retired and living in the wilderness............. But where's the fun in that?
If not, where did the phrase "Doctors and Nurses" come from?
Any relationship is going to involve hard work at times, unless you both happen to be retired and living in the wilderness............. But where's the fun in that?
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Hi guys I'm not crew yet.
But in my present company all the stuff you are saying goes on we go away on conferences etc alot and there is a what goes on tour stays on tour attitude.
However I am married 4 years and I have never even been tempted... I think the people that do are very weak individuals.
If your single then go have a great time if your married you commited to 1 person stick with that 1 person.
I plan on going to UAE without my hubby for 6 months I certainly wont be doing anything dodgy in that time.
A vibrator is a better idea.
But in my present company all the stuff you are saying goes on we go away on conferences etc alot and there is a what goes on tour stays on tour attitude.
However I am married 4 years and I have never even been tempted... I think the people that do are very weak individuals.
If your single then go have a great time if your married you commited to 1 person stick with that 1 person.
I plan on going to UAE without my hubby for 6 months I certainly wont be doing anything dodgy in that time.
A vibrator is a better idea.
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Whats a normal relationship anyway??
I was cabin crew for 2 and a half years, during which time I was single (and had the misfortune to date a few pilots and learn the hard way) and then also involved in a committed relationship.
There are opportunities for men to cheat wherever they work or socialise. And there are men who will take advantage of those opportunities and men who won't. I guess for those men who work in the airline industry it just means that the average rate of opportunities is significantly higher.
From my personal experience, when I was in a relationship I found long trips hard-especially over the weekend. Not because I was tempted, but because my boyfriend saw this as an opportunity to go out and stay out partying coz he knew I wouldn't be at home to tell him off. (Though he was young, so maybe that was more a reflection of his maturity
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When I switched to rosters that involved virtually no overnights his routine went back to normal.
Secondly, there are pilots out there who are the "girl in every port" types. And everyone knows this and if not - they soon find out. The other types of pilots are the happily married ones who immediately show you a picture of their kids as soon as you meet them. Unfotunately these are the only two types that I ever met! Never came across those nice, well adjusted, socially adaptable, looking-for-a-relationship-not-just-a-fling type pf pilots. Though I am sure they exist....even if it is an aviation museum somewhere under a display case........
There are opportunities for men to cheat wherever they work or socialise. And there are men who will take advantage of those opportunities and men who won't. I guess for those men who work in the airline industry it just means that the average rate of opportunities is significantly higher.
From my personal experience, when I was in a relationship I found long trips hard-especially over the weekend. Not because I was tempted, but because my boyfriend saw this as an opportunity to go out and stay out partying coz he knew I wouldn't be at home to tell him off. (Though he was young, so maybe that was more a reflection of his maturity
)When I switched to rosters that involved virtually no overnights his routine went back to normal.
Secondly, there are pilots out there who are the "girl in every port" types. And everyone knows this and if not - they soon find out. The other types of pilots are the happily married ones who immediately show you a picture of their kids as soon as you meet them. Unfotunately these are the only two types that I ever met! Never came across those nice, well adjusted, socially adaptable, looking-for-a-relationship-not-just-a-fling type pf pilots. Though I am sure they exist....even if it is an aviation museum somewhere under a display case........
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Aircrew can have a normal relationship!
I have been in a relationship for the last 5 years. Making things worse in my relationship is that the lady i love lives in a different country than myself. Due to this we only see eachother twice a month. However i take her with me on trips whenever i can. (long haul F/O)
As mentioned before there are some slappers that throw themselves at every man they meet. But do you really want to play 'hide the sausage' when you know the other person has played this game with nearly everybody else in the company? No thank you!
Fortunately most of the people i work with are not slappers (male/female) and the people who are slappers are well known in the company. On most trips everybody wants to have a good time and a laugh.
HostieHoney,
I have to disagree with you. There are nice, well adjusted, socially adaptable, looking-for-a-relationship-not-just-a-fling type of pilots around!!
However it can be difficult to chat up a woman when on a trip. As most pilots are tarred with the same brush you very quickly get the 'You are just looking for a s**g' treatment.
(fortunately i don't have to deal with this anymore)
I have been in a relationship for the last 5 years. Making things worse in my relationship is that the lady i love lives in a different country than myself. Due to this we only see eachother twice a month. However i take her with me on trips whenever i can. (long haul F/O)
As mentioned before there are some slappers that throw themselves at every man they meet. But do you really want to play 'hide the sausage' when you know the other person has played this game with nearly everybody else in the company? No thank you!
Fortunately most of the people i work with are not slappers (male/female) and the people who are slappers are well known in the company. On most trips everybody wants to have a good time and a laugh.
HostieHoney,
I have to disagree with you. There are nice, well adjusted, socially adaptable, looking-for-a-relationship-not-just-a-fling type of pilots around!!
However it can be difficult to chat up a woman when on a trip. As most pilots are tarred with the same brush you very quickly get the 'You are just looking for a s**g' treatment.
(fortunately i don't have to deal with this anymore)
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CEJM, you could not be more right. I am one of those "well adjusted, socially adaptable, looking-for-a-relationship-not-just-a-fling type of pilots around" - or so I think that I am 
But with the label that are put on almost all flightdeck members I don't even bother trying to find anyone inside the industry. Just not worth the bother.
But yes, I do know quit a lot of people within the aviation industry that are having healthy relationships without cheating....... and then there are of course also all the rest. But thats the same on every working site with mixed sexes and loose bodyfluids dripping around
But with the label that are put on almost all flightdeck members I don't even bother trying to find anyone inside the industry. Just not worth the bother.
But yes, I do know quit a lot of people within the aviation industry that are having healthy relationships without cheating....... and then there are of course also all the rest. But thats the same on every working site with mixed sexes and loose bodyfluids dripping around
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Call me old fashioned but I think if you're with the right person, who respects you and supports your career choice then having a 'normal' relationship won't be such a hard task. 
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Up and Down Operator,
I know exactly how you feel. However due to our schedules and times away from home it can be equally difficult to meet somebody nice outside the industry.
Being from the continent doesn't really help in my company. Most of my fellow countrymen earn themselves a 'good' reputation within the company.
So apart from battling the 'being flightdeck' curse i also needed to battle the 'foreigner' curse.
But hey, as they say. What goes around comes around. And some of my fellow countrymen have found this out already. Personally i prefer to go home after a trip and being met by the woman that i love, instead of doing my best to get a s**g on every trip.
I know exactly how you feel. However due to our schedules and times away from home it can be equally difficult to meet somebody nice outside the industry.
Being from the continent doesn't really help in my company. Most of my fellow countrymen earn themselves a 'good' reputation within the company.
So apart from battling the 'being flightdeck' curse i also needed to battle the 'foreigner' curse. But hey, as they say. What goes around comes around. And some of my fellow countrymen have found this out already.
Personally i prefer to go home after a trip and being met by the woman that i love, instead of doing my best to get a s**g on every trip.
