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I think every case and country is different.
As an American married to a Turkish one divorced in Turkey, working in the UAE.
Fought for 5 years in the upper courts for a house I paid cash for.
Finally just gave her the house in the courts.
My advise to you is get out and look at life differently from this point forward.
Go to BKK or MNL lots of good quality ones there.
I did this and am quite content now.
Some how the western ones will drag you down to there trailer park levels.
Courts and companies in the UAE wont even listen to these western ones.
I get coffee every morning,,massages at night,,and never any complaints like i experienced from the american or middle east ones.
Go Asian,,the only way!
As an American married to a Turkish one divorced in Turkey, working in the UAE.
Fought for 5 years in the upper courts for a house I paid cash for.
Finally just gave her the house in the courts.
My advise to you is get out and look at life differently from this point forward.
Go to BKK or MNL lots of good quality ones there.
I did this and am quite content now.
Some how the western ones will drag you down to there trailer park levels.
Courts and companies in the UAE wont even listen to these western ones.
I get coffee every morning,,massages at night,,and never any complaints like i experienced from the american or middle east ones.
Go Asian,,the only way!
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if you have divorced and have kids make sure you have the ex sign a consent form for you to take them traveling or she (ex) can de-facto file for abduction which may lead to some very unpleasant things.
same way as both parents need to sign on the passport application form.
same way as both parents need to sign on the passport application form.
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3 simple little rules
Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned !
To the men: Protect yourself x 2. If you're only thinking with your dick, protect it. If that is ALL your thinking with, then you should of protected your finances first.
To the wives: Handle your business at home girls ! If he wants a W***e, put on your Eff me stilettos and saddle up. Pilots are easy to please. Feed em, F**k em and let em go FLY.
To the X wives: Don't mistake Alimony for Salary. Because you're no longer earning it.
To the men: Protect yourself x 2. If you're only thinking with your dick, protect it. If that is ALL your thinking with, then you should of protected your finances first.
To the wives: Handle your business at home girls ! If he wants a W***e, put on your Eff me stilettos and saddle up. Pilots are easy to please. Feed em, F**k em and let em go FLY.
To the X wives: Don't mistake Alimony for Salary. Because you're no longer earning it.
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QF 22,
Pretty much spot on, CSA are the most vindictive government department I have ever had the displeasure of dealing with. The bi*tches can get anything and everything in Oz law, make sure you get an agreement to paying for the kids drawn up, its pretty straight forward but the minute CSA gets involved your doomed till they turn 18 or longer if they go to higher education.
Big advice to any one who is contemplating marrying one..... don't!
Pretty much spot on, CSA are the most vindictive government department I have ever had the displeasure of dealing with. The bi*tches can get anything and everything in Oz law, make sure you get an agreement to paying for the kids drawn up, its pretty straight forward but the minute CSA gets involved your doomed till they turn 18 or longer if they go to higher education.
Big advice to any one who is contemplating marrying one..... don't!
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Kinda off subject.....but if you get your GF cabin crew girlfriend in the family way....is there any way out except marriage? Is this the ultimate f***up? Don't have too much fun on those layovers.....double up on the raincoats!!
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Menegoc. What a sh*&ty way to post. Regardless of your personal situation, to come on and imply on a forum that you are not paying for your kids represents a true scumbag. I don't care what happened. If they are your kids, they deserve better than "anybody know what happen if you don't pay the full child support amount?"
"What if you don't pay full child support" or whatever crap you are spilling. Don't be so naive to post a stupid post like that and not expect back fall. You live on Raman noodles and take care of your kids, regardless of what happened. I don't know what you are or who you are, but anyone who suggests not taking care of their kids isn't much of a man, regardless of whether you were treated fairly or not. Do not take out a maritial problem on your children.
"What if you don't pay full child support" or whatever crap you are spilling. Don't be so naive to post a stupid post like that and not expect back fall. You live on Raman noodles and take care of your kids, regardless of what happened. I don't know what you are or who you are, but anyone who suggests not taking care of their kids isn't much of a man, regardless of whether you were treated fairly or not. Do not take out a maritial problem on your children.
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SPW--
Nope....just trying to connect the dots....
A past acquaintance of mine posted wed pics with a mention of a new baby--almost a confirmation that she was knocked up on their wedding day. Just guessing that he got in big trouble real fast and had to make a quick move or end up in jail himself.....poor guy, all over a night's fun! What a nightmare! Hope it works out for him! All the best!
Nope....just trying to connect the dots....
A past acquaintance of mine posted wed pics with a mention of a new baby--almost a confirmation that she was knocked up on their wedding day. Just guessing that he got in big trouble real fast and had to make a quick move or end up in jail himself.....poor guy, all over a night's fun! What a nightmare! Hope it works out for him! All the best!
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CAYNINE
Even with a CSA agreement your still not safe.
A mate of mine had a child support agreement with his ex.
He flew into Oz for a few days between contracts.
He was at home packing his bags to go to the airport when there was a knock at the door.
His ex found out he was in town and she went to the CSA for more money.
He was served with a summons and couldnt leave Oz until it was all sorted.
Missed his new contact, was out of a job for months and nearly went bankrupt!
Talk about biting the hand that feeds you !
As another poster said, steer clear of white trash.
Go Asian but dont ever get married again !
A mate of mine had a child support agreement with his ex.
He flew into Oz for a few days between contracts.
He was at home packing his bags to go to the airport when there was a knock at the door.
His ex found out he was in town and she went to the CSA for more money.
He was served with a summons and couldnt leave Oz until it was all sorted.
Missed his new contact, was out of a job for months and nearly went bankrupt!
Talk about biting the hand that feeds you !
As another poster said, steer clear of white trash.
Go Asian but dont ever get married again !
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Marriage or Mirage?
It's a truly conceptual situation. Hard to define with today's relationships. Most Marriages are based on an Alpha male and a "good little" wife. It worked out well until the "empty-kitchen " syndrome occurred.With that evolvement, the basic concept of a marriage has erroded into the modern day process of "I'm fat and ugly, my man is cheating on me and Opra says I'm using a facilator to run my life".
Marriage nowdays is a failed concept because many of the gals want to blame someone for their misfortunes or they are "over-acheivers" and a -"good enough" man doesn't exist.
So why would you stick your nose in the mess to start with....Have a relationship, enjoy your times together and then move on. Marriage is an institution of the past.
You want a lasting relationship, great, have one. But don't think the concept of marriage will solidify it. If it fly's, floats, or makes little "willy" happy...then rent it.
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Dear Fred Garvin MP I think you really need to look for some counseling, it is very clear your frustration, for what I don't know
I hope You will get better if you follow my advice
Cheers
I hope You will get better if you follow my advice
Cheers
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A lot of views & a fair number of posts but I wonder if you got the advice you sought. Legal views are well intended but not always correct. Stacks of humour too & I hope you gained some comfort. It is all very unpleasant. A colleague of mine faced same deal as you. While in the Middle East, he was chased by wifey's aggressive, Lesbian, cheroot smoking Lawyer . My mate fully supported what was a split marriage for some ten years previous & lived, pretty rough while sending back to the UK just about everything he earned so as to ease the pain, mainly for the kids. But, he was still hounded for the last drop when it all went Legal. Very lucky break for him was when he discovered that throughout the years of solid support, she was claiming DSS support too, including mortgage payments. GOTCHA. When HE threatened Court action, they dropped most things but he still settled, out of court & lost the house plus contents. In return, they agreed not to pursue him any more & he saved, ( a spectacular move) any future claims partcilarly disregarding his pension. It still took him just over ten years further to place himself somewhere half decent. The UK Courts, certainly, favour wives & the over generosity awarded to these leeches has resulted in this gravey train for many. A blinding indictment to all those working in the Courts from the Judges down. Oh and, finally, a big , husky, Afro American mate of mine just told me he NEVER wears a condom; "Nah Man, if I do, I don't feel nuthin".......I said, "try half your salary; you'll feel that !".
Why would he need counseling?
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Wife Magnets?
Hey guys, just a little tip here; your ego's are getting in the way of your own happiness. So your marriage failed, okay, did you learn anything from that experience? Have you looked yourself in the mirror and asked the tough questions;
- What role did I play in the success or failure of our marriage?
- Did I listen more than I spoke?
- Am I giver or a taker?
I'm guessing the bitter among you not only haven't explored these issues, but you're now sitting there saying; "stupid bitch, who's she think she is?"
Who I am is a pilot's wife. I'm an American. Not an Asian, an American. I love my husband, I put his happiness above my own. I care about his happiness, he cares about mine. We work at our marriage. Yep, there it is ... marriage is work. Nothing good comes easily, you have to work at it. Careers, hobbies, and marriages too. And we do work at ours, just like we work at our careers. We talk things over, we sometimes negotiate our personal priorities and needs, and we each give in for the other sometimes. We make our marriage the priority before everything else and it pays off BIG TIME.
Get over the bitterness and get your ego out of the game. You're missing out on so much. Let the anger and pain go and move on. There really ARE good women out there (lots right here in California!!), not only in Asia!
- What role did I play in the success or failure of our marriage?
- Did I listen more than I spoke?
- Am I giver or a taker?
I'm guessing the bitter among you not only haven't explored these issues, but you're now sitting there saying; "stupid bitch, who's she think she is?"
Who I am is a pilot's wife. I'm an American. Not an Asian, an American. I love my husband, I put his happiness above my own. I care about his happiness, he cares about mine. We work at our marriage. Yep, there it is ... marriage is work. Nothing good comes easily, you have to work at it. Careers, hobbies, and marriages too. And we do work at ours, just like we work at our careers. We talk things over, we sometimes negotiate our personal priorities and needs, and we each give in for the other sometimes. We make our marriage the priority before everything else and it pays off BIG TIME.
Get over the bitterness and get your ego out of the game. You're missing out on so much. Let the anger and pain go and move on. There really ARE good women out there (lots right here in California!!), not only in Asia!
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Aero Angel,
you talk easily on your high horse. We are not talking about marriage, we are talking about failed marriages, no matter whose fault it was (and yes, it does take TWO to Tango, I know!). Nobody here says it wasnīt his fault. But what is common here is that once itīs over, itīs time for sucking the life out of the ex-husband. Again, no matter why. My vicious, lifesucking b
tch of ex is trying to destroy me since nearly 10 years . She sent letters to EK trying them to fire me, she got me arrested upon arrival in Europe and she is trying to get the last bloody cent from me. All in the name of revenge. So much for the defenses of the poor, abandoned wifes. Thanks god EK is great when it comes to that and they support me (and other poor losers like me) as good as they can. And I think this was the original question. Yes. EK supports you and NO, the ex cannot get hold of you here in DXB. She can, however, get you by the b
lls as soon as you enter home turf. And funny enough, most of them wouldnīt care if you lost your job over this (together with your salary and ultimately their own alimony) as long as they can take you down.
Uuuuh, rant over, feeling so much better! Now getting back to my much younger girlfriend which happens to be NO white trash
Going the coloured route is so much better!
you talk easily on your high horse. We are not talking about marriage, we are talking about failed marriages, no matter whose fault it was (and yes, it does take TWO to Tango, I know!). Nobody here says it wasnīt his fault. But what is common here is that once itīs over, itīs time for sucking the life out of the ex-husband. Again, no matter why. My vicious, lifesucking b
tch of ex is trying to destroy me since nearly 10 years . She sent letters to EK trying them to fire me, she got me arrested upon arrival in Europe and she is trying to get the last bloody cent from me. All in the name of revenge. So much for the defenses of the poor, abandoned wifes. Thanks god EK is great when it comes to that and they support me (and other poor losers like me) as good as they can. And I think this was the original question. Yes. EK supports you and NO, the ex cannot get hold of you here in DXB. She can, however, get you by the blls as soon as you enter home turf. And funny enough, most of them wouldnīt care if you lost your job over this (together with your salary and ultimately their own alimony) as long as they can take you down.Uuuuh, rant over, feeling so much better! Now getting back to my much younger girlfriend which happens to be NO white trash
Going the coloured route is so much better!
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I'm done with the institution of marriage 7 years ago. Forever.
Since then, I've been a happy camper with a younger Asian g/f who is a trolley dolly and understands the airline world. We enjoy the DINK lifestyle: Double Income No Kids.
Since then, I've been a happy camper with a younger Asian g/f who is a trolley dolly and understands the airline world. We enjoy the DINK lifestyle: Double Income No Kids.