SOPS if you're frame of mind coming to work is how you described then maybe this isn't the place for you. I mean no disrespect but I've been here 10 years and not once have I thought about the things you have mentioned during an approach or go around. Someone here mentioned that under pressure anyone can forget an SOP or tech knowledge but your job is to keep cool under the gun that's why they pay you the pocket money. You have taken the command out of the captain; which is making a decision, living with it and most of all; able to walk away from it.
Speed2height, said it spot on. This is a big boys airline, if you need spoon feeding, again I'll say it, this might not be the place for you.