Dear Tony,
I have to agree with "Thoroughly Nice Bloke". By far one of the best topics since some time. Not one of these tiring neverending-wannabe-Boeing-against-Airbus threads... I think it is great, that you express so frankly your concerns here in public. But it makes we wondering on the other hand, why you can't be the same way with your Partners in the Cockpit? I am flying also here in Asia and I do understand that sometimes there is a huge authority gap between Captains and FO's.
But nevertheless I think you would have been far better off to take your heart, call your Captain after the flight in his hotel room, and ask him out for some beers and dicuss very frankly with him, what bugged you during that flight. It gives you the chance to get to know each other better and at the end of the day, you both probably learn from each other.
Maybe a bit idealistic, but I sincerely believe, that it helps you a lot during the flight, if you know your partners well. Sometimes a bit difficult to achieve, especially in bigger companies, I know.
Anyway both thumbs up for you, to bring this thing up here. Personally I believe, it would be great to have an own CRM forum, where more things like that could be discussed in a professional manner. . . <img src="smile.gif" border="0">