Try motto focus on a perfect 'flare' as you put it. Focus on the transition between your approach attitude and flying level with the runway. Try to fly all the way to the end of the runway, with no power. You'll never be able to but it will make a nice smooth transition and will stop you losing too much speed and having a hard landing! As you lose speed your nose will want to drop, DONT LET IT. Because you pitched up, more speed will bleed off, the nose will want to drop more and so on and so on.... Try it and see how it goes. I instruct on motor gliders, fly light aircraft and light twins and it's the same for all!! Just try and fly to the end but don't forget to chop the throttle SMOOTHLY.
Hope it helps!!