I understand where you are coming from.
Respect has a lot to do with it and how you interact.
"And there're always those that feel it's their subordinates
job to agree with them so there's no reason to consult with or explain to them."
I think it was Stormin' Norman who said in his book when he became
a Brig General, "once you become a Brig General, your sense of humour
improves markedly"
(As in everyone laughs at your jokes !)