Landflap,
Aren't many aircrew in what is known as a Double Bind?
"A double bind is an emotionally distressing dilemma in communication in which an individual (or group) receives two or more conflicting messages, in which one message negates the other.
This creates a situation in which a successful response to one message results in a failed response to the other (and vice versa), so that the person will automatically be wrong regardless of response. The double bind occurs when the person cannot confront the inherent dilemma, and therefore cannot resolve it or opt out of the situation."
Double bind - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Good luck all and do the right thing!