Popham website:
Overhead joins should generally be used though it is common practice to use a dead side join over the woods when using 08/26 and approaching from the south.
I don't know the circumstances, but I do know the A/G operator. I would suggest you give him a call OZ, as he is also a reasonably experienced aviator and I am sure he would welcome the feedback directly. There is never a reason for an 'ear bending' on the radio, although I think it is reasonable to provide guidance and training once you're in the clubhouse if you have not followed the published procedures.
Popham is a great place for all types of GA; your experience there is not the experience many of us have received when visiting Popham.
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