Glojo
I suggest you take the bait and watch Taking Chance. It in no way glamorizes war, nor does it lend itself to one side or the other in the debate of should we be there. It's the recollections of the Marine officer who escorts the remains of a young Marine home to rest.
I don't know you so I cant say you wouldn't be disappointed but I've yet to meet anyone who didn't appreciate the movie. Yet to meet someone who didn't come away emotional after it either.