There are nice ways of saying 'GEAR UP' and very abrasive ways of saying 'GEAR UP PLEASE'. The problem is using the SOP's as an excuse to grumpy and offhand behaviuor.
The point must be that a good atmosphere in the cockpit contributes to the team effort and improves comunication and safety. The party really begins in the crewroom. Is this one of the points of CRM?. More experienced people can perhaps say.