I'm still not quite sure why I'm in a minority in that view.
You're not, I suspect. The minority are whinging.
I share your sentiments, when you leave, leave it behind and move on. Civvies don't really give a damn for "When We" stories or mindsets, loose the "Rank (ret'd)" annotation too would be my advice. Show them you're up to it, ie earn it.
As a slight aside, The Mob's a closed community but, once you leave it you should have enough skills and experience to make it without reference to a former life...
Injured servicemen is a totally different argument.
Am I right in saying that there's an Official in the UK CAA that despite being a civvy still describes himself as "Wing Commander?