Mil pilots attitude to Mil ATC. I am guessing my interaction with Mil aircrew is a little more in the know than yours. On the whole we have an excellent relationship..... your broadbrush statements are based on what precisely? However I completely accept there are times when they can ocassionally get messed about by ATC.
Back in the 1970s, when the UK's airspace
was busy with military aircraft (unlike today), during TWU training we were told "Don't talk to ATC unless you absolutely need to - every transmission will probably cost you 100 lb of fuel!". Later, at Honington, staff pilots on my Buccaneer course used to refer to ATC as the 'Flying Prevention Branch'....
I hope things have moved on since those days? Mind you, some civilian pilots don't exactly make things easy - "Err, err, Golf Alfa, err Bravo Charlie Delta, err, err I'm flying to Stupidtown via the ABC, DEF and GHI at FL 6000 request err, Traffic Deconfliction.......err, over".....