Paid well = able to afford to fly.
Presumably you have evenings free that you could study? Presumably you have weekends free that you could be training? If you have domestic commitments, unless you are a single parent, then I'm guessing that half a day each weekend is feasible. Which should get you to PPL within a year, then hour building whilst you study ATPL groundschool after that.
Sorry, I'm afraid that my sympathy ran out - not that I had much to start with.
If you want to fly enough, you can. We all did, and nobody had it easy. Everybody had to struggle with time and money. Many commuted and hated their day jobs at the same time. I did my CPL whilst doing a busy day-job and commuting 10 hours per week - so it took me a few more hours and a lot more months. Big deal, loads of other people have done that as well.
Pull your finger out and do it, or stop complaining.
G