Dear Norman2
As you have specified that you are unwilling to move beyond a geographical location in order to fly I believe you have answered
your own question.
If you want to pursue a flying career you must be prepared to
move, really move, around the world, not around southern UK.
You also have a family to support, aviation does not feed a
family at the beginning, maybe a small dog but not a family.
My humble suggestion is some casual instructing or similar even
lecturing ground school courses. This would get you involved in
aviation and continue to feed your family, giving you contacts and
more knowledge of possible job opportunities. Best of luck