To be honest ive not long passed, done a few "family sightseeing trips" but thats it.
I guess id feel a bit strange/odd asking if im allowed to visit for the first time but after that ill be ok (maybe through fear of being spoken to like an idiot for doing it)!
Its the right and sensible thing to do so thats exactly what i will do... Just hear some people dont bother and wanted to put the feelers out for peoples thoughts and to see if its a common thing to call and be rejected etc
Thanks for all your posts guys