Dear Worriedwife,
Appreciate your sentiments and honesty but please don't believe everything that is written here!!!
My wife and I were in a similar position a few years ago.The only advice I would like to give is that sometimes dream fulfillment and true job satisfaction are more important than the££££££££££££££££'s.If he's happy,then you will be.And yes I know that doesn't pay the bills.
All the best from a happy and grateful eJ pilot.