Radio Phraseology as described in the AIP or Jepp is not definitive, easily locatable (there is subtext in differing locations of said references), nor is it consistent, the profiles are arguable "clumsy" and subject to change without obvious notification. Go on tell me it isn't!
When you blame the hordes for not getting it right, you are probably not allocating responsibility in the correct area.
Attention Messrs Hold Short et al, it might help you to produce (and publish) a definitive reference of all the necessary radio calls - if you find this too difficult to compile, then go back and read some of the posts of those who have significant and wide ranging experience and see why they say what they say about this subject.