ATC do this because they unaware of the limitations of your aircraft and what you operationally need and want.
Sadly communication meetings between active line pilots and active ATC controllers are a thing of the past...everyone works flat out these days and under pressure and are trying to fit a quart into a pint pot and as rapidly as possible.
I do not blame you for flying very much with your guard up and sometimes refusing being suckered into a bad situation...this is old fashioned airman-ship and pilot in command responsibility...it also keeps your sorry bottom out of the non flying chief pilots office on your day off.