"Contempt" for Cabin Crew

[flapsforty]

Shadow, have you tried talking with him about it?
Had a similar spot of bother this week.
Asked the captain for a wee chat in the cockpit during the turn around. He got very angry at me for even suggesting anything was wrong "under his command". But I managed to stay calm and to use all the techniques the company had ever paid good money to teach me. (even if I could have choked the b*stard with his own tie right there in his seat)
Convo wasn't at all pleasant, he shouted and I severely regretted opening my mouth halfway through.

But on the return leg the bloke was polite. The FA's greatly relieved that he'd stopped barking at them and me drained but pleased with myself for having confronted the situation.
PAx never noticed anything was amiss and we even scored a compliment letter from positioning crew for the happy atmosphere aboard.

Not saying that it always works, first time I've been in this situation in fact.
But perhaps worth a try?