rf744:
In these 2 events, destination was always within operational limits. I still feel I failed as a pilot, as I could not land in acceptable conditions, but I would do it again as I did.
RF, that is applied risk management. The limitations are generally assessed as isolated conditions, (other than the belatedly introduced wet/x-wind condition). The PIC is charged with determining the risk at any moment, and ensuring that it is appropriately managed. It may be that the sum of multiple limiting near conditions are in the aggregate unacceptable. That is just good risk awareness and the decision to reject is good management.
The question with AIE IMHO is that the limit that is imposed by the company reflects either the companies recognition of deficiencies, or it raises undue stress on the decision making. A cross wind in isolation is merely a handling coordination exercise, where there is no shear present.