Some flight crew will always have a different idea of what constitutes "good handling", with regards to the Ops bods, most'll be speaking from experience if they criticise anything, as they've all worked for the handling agents in the past to get the experience for a job in Ops in the first place!
It has to be said, that a LOT of flt crews will call back to the handling agent after departure to thank them for " their help" a" a great turnround" etc - this is not at all uncommon. You're not the first, and certainly won't be the last to feel "unappreciated" by Ops, crew etc - it happens unfortunately! being in Ops, doesn't make any of us immune to some unreasonable criticism, or ok, some of it also reasonable!!