"The matter was quickly sorted out when I demanded the ICFA be summoned and the extremely forceful attendant be made to apologise"
I think this may be the cause of the adverse reaction to your post. Whether you like it or not, the cabin crew member was doing their job, albeit with a rather less than diplomatic touch. To summon their boss and make the person concerned apologise was pompous and unnecessary. A discreet apology from the senior crew member would have been fine, but to insist on the humiliation of the junior member was not an action you should be proud of.