gchangflyer - you have probably failed to grasp an important piece of etiquette when flying as a passenger - it's not your aircraft. So when you want to "cross a boundary" you should ask first. It doesn't matter who you are are who you were speaking to, the cabin crew who spoke you was doing their job and you still fail to realise that. It is very disappointing to think that you might actually fly an aircraft for a living - dealing with people like you who can be so quickly offended for such little things makes everybody's lives more difficult than they need to be.
Please tell me I've misunderstood.
PM