Helmet, very eloquent post. Nicely put.
To dumb it down a little (as Homer says), I think there are three groups of people in this forum:
1. Those that explicitly express their sympathy,
2. Those that don't and find it objectionable to do so, and
3. Those that don't explicitly express sympathy, but can understand the motivation behind such posts, and the value that it may have for other people involved.
No particuar "species" of poster is right (flying lawyer?); and to argue that one is, is akin to arguing for Hinduism against Shintoism - completely subjective and endless.