eyealess, I'm really disappointed and angry to hear of your wife's experience. It's disgusting to think we have people in our company who could act like that. If she wished to report the incident to BA I'm sure that they would take the matter very seriously indeed.
The acting CSD on our flight was very careful to ensure that all paperwork which could have crew names on it was removed prior to us leaving the aircraft downroute.
Regardless of the rights and wrongs of the dispute those who choose to work have the undeniable right to do so, and to do so without fear of recrimination. I respect the courage of those who make this difficult choice. Strength and courage of course being an alien concept to the pathetic bullies who lurk on the sidelines.