Pilots consistently comment on the nature of Schiphol ATC as being crisp, hyper-efficient, and expecting equal efficiency on the part of the pilot. There's an implication that flight crew are routinely asked to accept instructions demanding a level of skill that perhaps pushes them out of their comfort zone.
Schiphol is a major hub and ATC is used to "working the flow" (three active runways plus one for GA). Most of the planes landing are from major airlines, familiar with hub operations.
And yes, Turkish was asked whether it would accept an instruction that would require some skill to get to a correct landing. The captain was free to reject it, he could also be vectored behind BarbiesBoyfriend for landing, adding 10 minutes to the duration of the flight. These are the decisions that a captain has to make.
In this case the Swiss cheese conspired against the crew, carefully lining up all holes, throwing an automation failure their way... I am eager to see the final report, to enumerate the issues not mentioned in this thread
