IheartMBT - BA does not have your best interests at heart. It never has done, it never will do, it never should do. BA is a business and it has it's shareholders interests at heart. Once crew start to get to grips with that fact they might start to take the emotion out of the argument and get somewhere.
BA needs to save money, ideally without a strike, but with if need be. They are going to get the savings, and I doubt they really care how they do it as long as they get them. Your unions role, if it is really representing you, is to achieve those savings with the minimum pain.
Do you feel adequately represented?
Do you feel that avoiding the savings by taking industrial action is what you want?
Do you feel that misrepresenting the savings delivered by other staff groups in order to foment a feeling of victimisation is an approach you'd take?
Do you feel that lying about colleagues (including your husband) to stir up hatred against them is a strategy you could endorse?
Do you feel that an attitude of confrontation rather than cooperation is the way you'd like your union to operate?
Were you ever consulted about what you were prepared to change about the way you work?
If your union reps are in the same boat as you can we assume that you are an old contract CSD, part-time, eager to retain a day to day veto over the way BA operates and have been caught with your hand in the cookie jar manipulating rosters to ensure maximum income for yourself? Or maybe you're are actually in a different boat?