There are lots of captains who are afraid of flying and many more who are nervous. We used to have one who would regularly load so much fuel that the payload on the subsequent sector was compromised (four or five hours fuel on landing from a 45 minute sectors). Yes they are probably doing the wrong job and they probably don't enjoy going to work. Amongst them there are a few idiots as well. But almost all of them have some good points. So hold the poor little sod's hand when it gets a little bumpy and they get frightened. Slow up to
Vb (remember it's a target, not a limit) and try to learn how to do the things for which you admire them. You'll then find your working like less stressful and more constructive.
PM
...and don't spill the G & T's in the back. It's they who pay your wages, so go for smoothness above all else.