Well if your loss in an accident was passed off by some anonymous fool as 'irony', you perhaps would feel slightly insulted, if you weren't so dead. Don't such remarks reek to you of 'bad taste'? Do you really have to go public with such comments? How do you think their families and colleagues (some of whom are very possibly likely to look here) will feel about the loss of their loved ones being spoken about so? 'High horse'? 'Respect' is a better word, and you are showing little here to them.
I hope this thread might soon be consigned to where it belongs.