As an uninvolved person, I am trying hard to see both sides of this story.
What often strikes me is not WHAT people say but rather HOW they say it. Sometimes posts are almost breathlessly indignant. Suspiciously so.
I am reminded of Shakespeares famous line - me thinks the lady doth protest too much.
In the case of Alpha Leader, I am suspicious of the point you make about some supposed daddy who didn't get home for Xmas. Why would you want to characterise more than a thousand individuals in such a demeaning and trivialised way? I suspect it is in order to salve your guilty or confused conscience. Because, if you didn't have reason to do so, then I doubt you would stoop to such shallow and simplistic definitions.