The whole point and why it is so important that we can discuss accidents is that such discussions "may" deter another pilot from making a simular mistake.
Whether we happen to hit on the real cause is IMO irrelevant it is getting pilots to think around the accident and what could have caused it that is so crucial.
To discuss a whole host of possible causes also brings out other ways in how such an accident could occur and other accident scenarios we can avoid.
That MAY include the actual cause of the accident in the conclusion arrived at in the discussions.
Accidents shock us for our vulnerability is always tucked away in the back of our minds and surfaces when these tragedies occur.
We are then more open to taking in lessons rather than a year later when the AAIB report comes out and the shock factor has gone.
As long as postings are opinions and guesses rather than put over as a matter of fact I really dont care whether relatives pop in here or not. Its a pilot forum for pilots not deceased loved ones relatives. "dont look for fear of what you might find" springs to mind.
Posting a pilots name or aircraft reg is in bad taste because it doesnt add anything to the purpose of accident discussions. Pilot X in aircraft XYZ is enough. The aircraft type is important but not the reg and certainly not the name of the poor soul.
Pace