I'm not being bitchy in this message.
Choosing a career which takes you away from your home, family and friends and makes you both knackered and not able to plan our life is something you have to take into consideration when applying for it.
Yuo won't get any sympathy whatsoever if you are using those arguments because people will simply say you are in the wrong job and you should find employment elsewhere, which is partly true. If it bothers you that much you should perhaps think of getting another job that takes you home every day and makes your life easier.
Again, not being bitchy and please don't take offense.