I'm all for discussing the circumstances around accidents. It helps us learn and be better pilots.
I would rather learn from someone else's mistakes, or hypothetical circumstances that come from such accident discussions, than from my own mistakes.
However being first to publish the names and addresses of the persons involved is bad taste in my opinion. That information add's nothing to the dicussion. For those of us who are distant aquantances or simply want to know out of curiousity, this information will come in time.
I think BRL was perfectly correct to call you up on it. I think (and I'm sure he'd agree with hindsight) that it would have been better done in private, rather than in public. But even on that point I don't have much sympathy for you, as you too have chosen to have this argument in public rather than in private.
BRL is an excellent moderator. He has moderated private flying now for a long time, with a very light touch. It's rare that he pulls anything, and his calls are almost alright right. In this case, I think he's spot on, but should have done it in private.
He has my full support in this case. But don't let it get to you. We have all had something pulled, or found ourselves on the wrong side of moderation in the past. Don't make it into a big deal. Life is to short to get upset about this things. Let it go and be happy
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