Traditionally they make you a judge when you have the experience and the demonstrated maturity and aptitude to fulfill that role. You do seem rather judgmental of these senior crewmembers from your less than lofty perspective?
These captains with "terrible CRM," I assume you mean CRM attributed skills? How did they qualify for promotion, and given the recurrent testing criteria how do they maintain a position in your company with these "terrible" skills? Does your judgment differ radically from those charged with the 6 monthly assesments? Presumably it must, since maintainance of command would normally require at least a consistent ongoing grade of average or satifactory in both the use of SOP's and the notech requirements as part of the overall assesment.
One Cap even pointed at her stripes to make a point she was in charge.
Why? What had you done to cause such exasperation?
It really is a fundamental mistake to interpret "CRM" as some sort of universal leveller. In any walk of life and in any industry there are going to be individuals with a spectrum of personalities. There simply will never be a
one size fits all character that everybody should aspire to. A lot of emphasis in the understanding of behavioural markers, is in understanding your own. It is how you as an individual can tailor and adapt your own interpersonal skills to best work with the whole range of people and personalities you are likely to meet.
Nobody is perfect. I am not, you are not, and its a fair guess that neither of the two captains you mention are either. However part of the learning process in this job (and many others) is in seeking to understand and adapt to make these personalities mesh with your own in such a way that you achieve the best possible result. We all work with people who for one reason or another we don't particular like. That is just a fact of life. Understanding and adapting to these people often requires a great deal of effort and some time, however there is usually much to be learned from the work required.
Nobody said it was easy, even though trotting out those three letters "CRM" as a universal catch all, often is?