sorry to hear this tale and this cow sounds like a witch BUT with ryanair unless you play their 'game' you will end up getting grief from some jobsworth....and it will all end in tears which is precisley why i do not choose a loco carrier to go with.
if yer cabin bag aint 55cmx40cm and weighs less than 8 or 10 kgs (wotever it is) then u cross the line
be prepared for the evil
witches to start their pathetic games and the scaredy cat pax play hide the sausage or gin bottle wotever
its not just FR its lots of the nasty cheapo's