niceneasy
Well niceneasy;
I didn't think it was ethical for your husband to say don't fly with so and so,nor was it for you to call in sick or whatever just because you thought someone's ability as a pilot is directly proportional to remembering someone's name.
I agree that we have some not so good pilots in the industry,but I don't think that it is appropriate to sum up.
You said that it has nothing to do with race,creed,color what ever you may call it...But again would we say "no problem" it there was no problem at all.
Keep listining to the PA.