Do you love him? Tha is really the crux of the matter. All the above to some extent or another are true, however it is what you make of it. I live a good way from the base where I am at now, my wife has her own career as a doctor - the bonus is that she can move easier than most jobs when I am posted, but this does not mean that we have always lived together. There are lots of guys with wives who live apart during the week - the question is, can you handle it? As for the leaving work at work thing - I agree. but you don't have to get involved in all the 'flower arranging' anymore!!! You can if you want but..... It may get a little more difficult if your husband ascends to high rank - then more will be expected - but that is a LONG way off..... And, at the end of the day, the parties are GOOD!
Hope it helps.......
But then, you probably will not bring this situation to a head before the OASC results come out