Interesting thread! Bit sad in some ways, but some useful info to boot. As a pilot I was keen to pick up some tips, and I got a few. The last thing I want to do is irritate very busy controllers.
I must admit to being very irritated myself with "keep outside controlled airspace" regularly offered advice which is usually totally irrelevant and unhelpful. If you guys want to reduce the amount of talking, you could cut this one out most of the time.
"Ready in turn" shouldn't upset anyone. It is not meant to be pushy, just a polite way of saying "ready" when you are not at the front of the Q.
"Got him on TCAS" is really the same as "I have him visual", and shouldn't really irritate anyone. Once again the pilot is passing some reassuring info the the ATCO, keeping him/her informed of what might be marginally relevant.
I appreciate that there are pedants in ATC, and it is hard to argue against it in the current "liability" climate, but personally I wish neither the pilot nor the ATCO would get wound up about imperfections that don't actually cause any problems. We are both working together to achieve an end.