I am ex mil ATCO now civil so excuse the interruption to this 'club' but-
Maybe TAD is posting here to give the mil a chance to explain how/why it happens. That was certainly the way we preferred to operate in my day, discuss it informally rather than going down the telling tales route without giving a right to reply. One day, many of you will be flying a civil a/c and I can assure you that if any a/c gets too close, paperwork flies around the place.What is achieved is a 'cover your 6' exercise instead of something constructive. All that has been acheived here IMHO is alienating someone who posed a genuine question, albeit with some sarcasm but you're big boys - deal with it.
Also, when I left the RAF,I chose to become a Civvy ATCO as I enjoyed the work and doubled my salary so it was my first choice.