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I think the "win" you are missing can be demonstrated by the following;
Please don't think that I have experience in giving sweeties to children, but it involves giving sweeties to children. If you offer to give a child 2 options either 4 sweets for them and 10 to their older and rival sibling, OR 2 sweets each; the immature mind will always happily accept the 2nd option as depriving the rival an additional 6 sweets is seen as a "win".
Obviously, the mature mind would elect the first option as 4 sweets are better than 2. The intelligent mind, however, would enthuse about option 1 as children in general are receiving 14 sweets, which is much better than children receiving only 4 and the other 10 going in a fund to be fertively distributed by the "sweet management" as some form of hitherto undisclosed bonus...
Oops... sorry got carried away.. sugar rush.. too many sweets...