One of the dangers with any topic such as this is generalisation.
One cannot say, "men behave like this, women behave like that". We are all individuals and should be treated as such. Common themes such as courtesy, being even-tempered, fair should run through any working relationship.
A lot of women do not respond well to agression; neither do a lot of men but the reaction could well be different but, as a man, you might be more likely to expect the reaction.
A lot of women do not have egos like some men do. Some men might find that hard to comprehend.
But, I re-iterate, we are all individuals; try getting to know the person, try treating all people equally. If some respond well and others don't (whether male or female), then ask yourself why. Did you handle a situation well?
Also, think about all your co-pilots; are all the bad female? Common sense should say that on the law of averages, you must have had some crap male pilots and some good female ones. Just have a think about the percentages involved.
If you're not getting the best out of your female pilots, are you trying to treat them differently like they're another species?
I do think you need to look to yourself as well.
Cheers
Whirls