Jack, my ex was an alcoholic - you don't seem to notice these things when you live close to someone, three kids (youngest was 20), married for 31 years and looking back on it, I was walking in eggshells most of the time! To cut a long story short, without any hint or warning she brought her brother-in-law, his henchmen and a furniture van and they literally stripped the house whilst I was still there. It wasn't a case of 'Why didn't you stop it?'; 5 to 1 are not very good odds! So within hours, i was left with virtually an empty house and 34p in the bank.
Now about 7 years later, resettled in Bangkok - with my daughters' blessings - married to a lovely Thai women and life could not be better.
So, Jack, things may look very bleak now but I'm sure better times are coming. As my dear old dad used to say "Even if your belly touches the ground, keep your chin up!"