Just a correction to kokkos's post. 1 out of the 3 guys left to go back, he spent over 10 years here as a single guy, he really doesn't need the cash, as for the other 2, they still labour on.
What the guy needs here is factual advise and not emotional, this is a big step for him. A simple fact and observation is that he can read and write in English, saves us from having to do Portugese lessons!!!!!
Very good post by BM