Just looked at this thread for the first time and there's been a bit of creep. Seems to have slewed into the 'Who's the better pilot' type of arguement which is not what the original question was.
As someone who was a military pilot and QFI, instructed at a flying club and is now an airline pilot (and used to fly rubber dog sh!t out of Hong Kong. It's not a bad job - honest!), I can state that reaction to military pilots from civilian ones covers the whole spectrum, from levels of genuine interest, through ambivalence to general hostility - probably resulting from jealousy. This is what a psycologist would probably expect due to a whole range of factors, the main one being personalities.
From my experience, pilots tend to have personalities!