I don't think one can fault UK military pilots.
The trouble starts when they become old codgers and get a job in the CAA. Then, they start treating people like they used to treat them in the RAF: ok, chaps, we have 533 applicants for this one fast jet training position, so hey let's do some serious sorting of men from the sheep!
This is OK in the RAF where they can run an outright war of attrition on the job applicants. And with the planes costing millions, they do need to be quite fussy.
Civil aviation doesn't work like that. One needs to adopt the opposite POV: is this chap good enough to fly, and if so we must allow him to.