You must have an expanded checklist in your company, do you? There it should also state how and when to put on and off your lights.
What does it say?
When you go to Toulouse and learn the "original" Airbus procedures, you put (FCOM 3.03.18)
Exterior Lights ............ set
set NOSE switch to TAXI
RWY TURN OFF switch to ON, and
LAND switch to ON
Since Airbus emphazises the common cockpit philosophy, it wants it to have it on all fleets the same, so A318 to A380 all the same.
Then there are reasons that you want to spare the bulbs and then there are policies in certain companies that lights belong to the CMD. So depending on your company, do what your policy say and try to live with it. There are always strange captains that want strange things. It's not the purpose of the FO to adapt to the Captain but to the correct company procedures. If your CMD wants something else, he must tell it to you.
Dani