Mon330,
What you need to realize (which you probably already do) is that GA in NZ is a small and variable feast.
CTC cadets (of which you were one...have you posted your ballot paper?
) are trained to operate over here..with the emphasis on making your transition into a type rating as smooth as possible.
Uncle Bill in his RV6, might only fly twice a month...he might only fly in the local area..he might also not flown in controlled airspace for 10 years.
Not ideal, but thats life.
BTW, cadets in NZ are viewed with a mixture of amusement/suspicion/envy, so don't be surprised that some of the procedural radio work, and perceived arrogance is a source of amusement.
Enjoy your next Male'
