I owe this to others.
It is obvious that 43 has been elevated to a good school beyond reproach. But it is also run by humans who can be inhuman. I happened to have run into the big guy after being washed out and the picture still plays in my mind. Him bragging how he'd let me go easy to a colleague with a wide grin. Professional?
Anyone explain that away? By choosing not to be timid this forum gives others a chance to narrate their tales and maybe then we can stop denying it.
My apologies again to the people who are beyond this.