We have a job to do.
ATC have a job to do.
We each shouldn't interfere in in the other's operation, but we each should be mindful of the constraints that the other team player faces.
In the old days when there were a few "finer points" to be resolved between us, we sorted it out in the Cathay Club or more likely the Aviation Club (Kai Tak). If in doubt, the grandfather of HKG and China ATC Phil Parker, use to kick a few arses and take a few names, and we would come to a negotiated agreement.
All HKG ATC staff should be jump-seated around the region on a regular basis to observe our problems up close and personal, as was the case in times of olde. But these days you can't expect non-pilot f*ckwit Company Directors to even be able to frame the question as to why this should be.